Have you ever heard the phrase, “nice guys finish last?” Well, they do. The nice guys often find themselves at the bottom of the ladies’ list. They have become a safety net for most women. The woman will come to them after the lady has been battered, beaten and bruised in the arena of love. Unfortunately, the nice guy will still accept her despite the fact that the lady has lost her desirability. If she has not seen his beauty and value before, will she see it now? Where is dignity in that?
What do you think are the mindset that defines a nice guy? What is behind their mind when they do what they do? Learning the mindset of a nice guy could make us aware of their faulty beliefs that have prevented them from having a girlfriend. Here are the top ten faulty beliefs that the nice guys possess:
1. Be subservient to the girl and she will like you eventually. Nice guys act like a trained dog when he is with the woman he likes because he believes that the promise of sex will be fulfilled someday. Unfortunately, that day will never come. Women are attracted to alpha males. So it is advisable that you are on your alpha state if you want to drop her panties off. Comply with her demands when it is convenient for you. Don’t obey her like a dog because you are an alpha man and you deserve to be treated like one.
2. Cover your sexual intent. The girls are already aware of the fact that men are attracted to them. Nice guys are making the situation more awkward by pretending not to have any sexual intent to the girl. Alpha males should realize that showing your interest to the girl is acceptable. Feel free to make your intentions known but don’t overdo it else she might label you as a pervert. You can flirt in order to playfully show your interest to the girl with no pressure. Flirting is a spice of the interaction between a woman and a man. So sprinkling it during the encounter is beneficial.
3. Pretend that everything is okay. Don’t be afraid to show how you truly feel. Smile when you have something to be happy about. Cry when there is something that upsets you. Frown when you are displeased. These emotions make us human. When the girl sees your different emotional spectrum, she will have a conclusion that your emotional faculty is intact and functional. Nice guys are humans too. Unfortunately, they are willing to give up their humanity just to get intimate with the girl. This is one of the reasons why nice guys are often mistreated.
4. Don’t show your bad side. Nice guys often make the mistake of hiding their undesirable traits. Ladies are aware of the fact that nobody is perfect. If you try to cover up your flaws, the women might think that you are too good to be true. A suspicion will arouse in her that you are not what you claim to be. When you are interacting with a girl, feel free to show your flaws. Be honest about it and show some efforts in correcting them. This is what makes you human. This is what makes you relatable to the woman that you desire.
5. Impress the girl in order to get her approval. Alpha males screen girls while the nice guys on the other hand seek the woman’s approval. This is one of the reasons why the nice guys will resort to bragging about their achievements in order to increase their value. Although it works for some women, it often results to catastrophic results. If you want to be successful with women, then you need to overcome the nice guy syndrome. See yourself as the catch. Seek to improve yourself and don’t be afraid to screen the girls who will come your way. This is because you are looking for someone who can add value to your life.
6. Convince the girl to like you. Nice guys like to play the role of an attorney when it comes to attracting and seducing women. They forgot to consider the fact that women are more inclined to their emotions. Trying to convince a girl to like you is like fighting an uphill battle. It is futile and it takes a lot of effort on your part. It will save you the time and effort if you stimulate her emotional aspect. In that manner, you will elicit a more positive response.
7. It is okay to give up your integrity for the girl. All of us have some preferences. However, the nice guys will copy the preference of his target in order for her to like him. He is willing to give up everything just to get in bed with the girl. There is nothing wrong with having some compromise but the nice guys is willing to give up his integrity just to get what he crave for. In a woman’s perspective, this is not attractive. The nice guy gave in too soon. Where is the challenge? As an alpha male, you should stand on your ground and don’t allow the girl to throw you off balance.
8. Bribe the girl into liking you. Some men see girls as a vending machine. They will drop coin into the slot and expect sex to come out in return. This does not work that way. If you want to be intimate with the girl, you need to connect with her at a deep emotional level. Make her feel safe and horny so that you can save your pennies for the rainy days.
9. I have to get the girl, no matter what. When a nice guy is caught harboring his feelings for the girl, he will push his panic button and begin to be desperate. For him, it is a matter of honor. He should get the girl or be shamed for life. With this mindset, the nice guy will resort to become clingy to the girl. As a result, he is pressuring the girl. When this happens, the girl will be turned off because this scenario is not conducive for seduction.
10. It is useless to read a dating guide book. Most nice guys can’t admit to the fact that something needs to be changed. It could be his mindset or the way he carry himself. There are some dating concepts that can help them improve their chance of getting a girlfriend. What do you think is the difference between a master pickup artist and an average joe? It is the dating system that separates a Casanova from the rest of the pack. You can make this dating system available to you by reading a reliable dating guide book that can enlighten you in the field of attracting and seducing women.