There are a lot of people, things and events in the world. Unfortunately, we don’t have time to pay attention to all of them at once. We have so many choices yet so little time. This is why we need to prioritize so that we can spend more time with the things that we value the most and make a profit out of them. The principle can be applied to dating. Both male and female alike have to make a choice from an array of potential partners. We can’t have them all in one setting. So we have to pick the candidate who is most attractive to us. In addition to that, we should be comfortable in hanging around with them in order to make the relationship work.
Knowing the natural tendencies of every person to prioritize the most valuable things, we should therefore demonstrate our value to a girl. The question is, “how can you show your worth without being labelled as arrogant?” There is a thin line between confidence and arrogance. Just a little slip could definitely change the atmosphere. You have made the right choice in learning how to discern between being confident and being arrogant. Humility is a virtue. However, you should also present yourself effectively in order for the lady to know you better.
Presenting yourself should be done correctly in order for the woman to know that you are worth her time. Did you know that women will gauge your value in the first three minutes of the interaction? You have to make most of this small window of opportunity to attract and seduce her. If the lady thinks that you are a man of value and you are worth her time, then she will stick around to escalate the sexual tension between the two of you. Each step brings you closer to the deep emotional connection that both of you are yearning for. Here are the ways that you can demonstrate your high value to the girl without being labelled as arrogant:
1. The way you talk. What you say and how you deliver your speech can tell a lot of things about you. Therefore we should use this to our advantage. It will be frustrating if you will fight against this maxim. What we can do is to practice our public speaking skills. When you are flirting with a woman, you are conveying a message that you like her and you can give something special in return. Avoid any misinterpretations by using a well-modulated voice that could be understood by all of the people that you are interacting with. By the way, you should also avoid using offensive languages that could offend other people unnecessarily. These bad words will drive away the ladies like a repellant. Thus, choosing your words wisely and delivering them well can help you pick a woman up.
2. The way you carry yourself. Being rich, smart and nice will not be enough to get you a girlfriend. You should also learn how to utilize your gifts to your advantage. Let us have this analogy, having a boat could not guarantee that you will reach your destination. You should also learn how to handle the steering wheel. Now back to dating. This is where your personality comes in. What do you mean by personality? It is defined as your set of emotional qualities that can affect the way you behave. It can either make you attractive or offensive to the girl. Attractive qualities like optimism and a good sense of humor can make you interesting and pleasant to be with. Therefore, it is crucial to have our personalities in check.
3. Your self-confidence. You cannot fake true self-confidence. Trying to act up will not help you that much. You have to truly believe in yourself before your true self-confidence could manifest itself. Before anyone can appreciate you, you have to be thankful to be you. Notice your good features and seek to correct your unwanted characteristics. As an alpha male you should acknowledge the fact that you deserve love. Don’t allow anyone to convince you to believe otherwise. Have the courage to improve the things that you can change and learn to accept the things that you cannot change.
4. Your passion. Have you ever wondered why women prefer bad boys over nice guys? There are several factors that could affect their choice. One of them is passion. Nice guys spend all their days playing video games in order to win the imaginary trophies. This is fun but it could ruin your life if you neglect your social life. Being at home all the time and being too dependent on the girl when it comes to socialization can make the nice guys look so needy. As a result, their value will be diminished in the ladies’ eyes and they will become a lesser priority. In contrast, the bad boys have found their passion. They ride bicycles, they engage in sports and they seduce women. Their social life is thriving and healthy. They offer a variety of electrifying experiences that the girls are looking for. Can you really blame the ladies if they choose a bad boy?
5. Your lifestyle. In order to demonstrate your high value to the girl, you should adopt a balance lifestyle that has time for the important things in life. When we say lifestyle, it includes your goals, hobbies and preferences. It is better to give a value to another person’s life than to rely on other people for validation. Having enough time for work, socialization and play can make you attractive to the ladies. However, the nice guys are so engrossed with their gaming that they neglect the valuable things in life. As a result, the ladies will forget about them. Don’t let this happen to you.
6. Comfort level. How would you react to a person who is not comfortable with your companionship? You will also feel uncomfortable, don’t you? The ladies will also feel the same if you are anxious around them. There are several ways to overcome approach anxiety. I could share with you some of them. One way to help you feel comfortable in approaching women is to study more about the art of attracting and seducing women. Anxiety is commonly defined as the fear of the unknown. It is just logical to combat it with proper education. Next, what is the use of knowledge if you don’t apply what you have learned? There is no way around it. Find some time to talk to women and don’t be afraid to bruise your knees a couple of times. Learn from your romantic interaction. In addition to that, learning how to meditate is highly recommended. It is an ancient art of controlling your mind. It can help you relax at will in the face of nerve racking experience. It has worked since the ancient times and it can still work now.
7. Your wit. You can give a person an exam if you want to know how intelligent that person is. However, it is not practical to give exams to all the people that you meet along the way. One way to accurately gauge a person’s intelligence is through their wits. Your high reasoning power is a characteristic of a good mate. This is one of the criteria that ladies used to gauge the value of a man. In order to become witty, you have to be spontaneous and fluent. You can acquire these traits by reading reliable books and practicing your speech. Show the ladies how sharp your wit is!
8. Social proof. There are twins who look the same. One is unkempt in appearance while the other is well-dressed and has a woman on his side. Who do you think is more attractive? Naturally, you will choose the twin who is well dressed. They may have the same looks and wealth but the other twin has a higher social proof than his counterpart. Did you know that studies have shown that married men are perceived as more attractive than a single man? I am not surprise because married men have already proven their worth. Why would a woman marry them? It implies that they have the good qualities that the women are looking for. This is not necessarily true but it suggests that married men have already passed the test of manhood. It gives them a seal of approval from the society which gives them access to its resources. We can compare a social proof to a VIP pass. When you have it, then you may pass. This is how social proof works. Use it to your advantage.
9. Your initiative. Alpha males know what they want and how to get it. They initiate the interaction whenever it is possible. Even though women have experienced a surge of opportunities and empowerment in the last decades, one can’t deny the fact that they are still attracted to the alpha males. So set your priorities straight and focus on your goal in mind in order to set the stage for your alpha male initiative. The man with the plan can bring out the trust from others. If you want to get a girlfriend, then make a woman trust you with your initiative and reliability.
10. How you treat other people. Most guys make the mistake of hovering over attractive ladies while mistreating the people around them. Most women are raised to be compassionate by their parents. They will naturally feel sorry for the people that you have maltreated. As a result, they will feel hatred and disgust towards the arrogant men. Being arrogant could back fire. If you are in a habit of putting people down in order to boost your ego, then it is about time to find another approach to demonstrate your high value. Arrogance and lack of sympathy towards other people can ruin your chance of getting a girlfriend. If you want to have a clear access to the ladies, then engage the whole group.
When you successfully demonstrate your high value to the girl, she will realize that you are a man of value who is worth her time and resources. As a result, she will spend more quality time with you over your competition. In the sea of suitors, you stand out of the crowd. She will naturally be drawn to you because a person of high value tends to be prioritized.
As you can see, dating and marketing is not that different. When it comes to dating, you are selling your services to the girl as a boyfriend. Be the one who can promise and deliver her a bright future of romance and undivided attention. By demonstrating your high value to the girl, you can encourage the girl to invest in you because you are worth it!